Wednesday, November 12, 2008

my everything

4 days with you are never enough
40 days with you are never enough
400 days with you are never enough
4000 days with you are never enough
...
not even 40000 days.

I just want to spend all my life and after life with you!

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008

my love

I am so in love with you!

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Friday, October 17, 2008

press conference

Just for the record....

I am NOT getting married!!!

arghhhhhhhhh

NOT NOW....at least hehe

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Monday, October 13, 2008

missing u

The reason it hurts so much to separate is because our souls are connected.
~Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook


Isn't it wonderful to miss someone and be missed in return?



Thanks for the sweet surprise, love ;)

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Thursday, May 15, 2008

lovey dovey messag

Sudddenly the topic of marriage and relationship revolve around my circle of friends and family...

I am NOT against it for sure...

Just that I prefer to let it flow...

Maybe he's just around me... maybe he's somewhere still yet to find...

I have no clue.

But I am sure...

LOVE IS IN THE AIR!!!

ps: keep lovin' haha wish me luck :)

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Friday, October 05, 2007

life is good

Miss.......................................Live..........................
..............Happiness......................................Friendship.....
.........................Sharing........................Togetherness........
..............Memory...................Live......................Caring.....
......Tenderness................Love.............................Humble.....


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Sunday, September 16, 2007

There Are Some Things Girls Should Always Do For Guys. Period.

There Are Some Things Girls Should Always Do For Guys. Period.

(To be fair to the guys out there :) )

1 As much as you want to talk about past relationships, keep it to a minimum, unless he asks. You don't want him to feel like he's in competition with anyone.


2 Every guy has a 'geeky' side of him. Whether it be video games, DVD, WoW, anime, football among other sports, or whatever. Don't make fun of him if you don't like it, either tolerate it, or learn to like it. DO NOT try to change him. If he's constantly ignoring you for that hobby of his, tell him.


3 When you hug the boy, hold tight. It doesn't hurt to rest your head on him either.


4 Compromise for movies. Watch his favorite movies and he'll give in for the movie you want to see.


5 Sometimes pay for the date! I know guys hate this, but if he takes you out constantly, it's more than likely he's going to be poor! Treat him sometime. Even if you just buy the snacks!


6 Hold his hand!! Even in the mall when you have a ton of bags, hold his hand.


7 Don't run away from his favorite stores, if you don't like them! Watch him. Gift ideas!!


8 Any time your guy gives you a compliment, don't just roll your eyes. He means it, and you should smile and say thank you.


9 Guys are pressured to take the relationship to a "deeper level". Stupid society. Anyway, if you dont want that in a relationship, tell him before things get too complicated! You can compromise too. If you are uncomfortable with something, STOP.


10 “Fine" or “whatever" is not an appropriate ending to a conversation. Only makes matters worse.


11 Life isn't a drama or a movie. This is real life, people. They don't often come with a sword, armor, and a white steed.


12 NEVER EVER kick them in the place below the belt. Even in a fight or argument, just don't do it.


13 TRUST HIM. Don't scream when he looks at another girl. We know you were goggling at the cute guy that just passed. It's nature. Don't dig through his phonebook, and hey, guys can have female friends just like girls can have male friends. If this makes things awkward, talk about it.


14 This should go without saying. Love him for who he is! Don't worry about what others think. Don't try to change him into what's cool and hip. Some compromises can be made, and tell him that if he ever has a problem you changing him, to tell you.


15 In an argument, just because society stereotypes women as being smarter, more mature, and men as dumb and immature, doesn't mean you are always right.


16 Listen to him. Even if it's something you don't want to hear. Good communication is key.


17 Cook. It may sound stereotypical, but a lot of guys like having a meal cooked for them. A lot of it is the thought, but if you truly are terrible, then maybe this isn't one you should try. If you know how to cook, maybe teach him, or you both can learn together.


18 Sing. Many girls underestimate how well they sing. You don't have to be able to sing 10 octaves or whatever. Don't be embarrassed to sing in front of a guy, just let yourself go a bit and have some fun.


19 A girl has the right to show off her body, but keep your pride and dignity. Be careful! If you show off too much, guys (and just people in general) may get the wrong message and make assumptions.


20 Just like girls want girl time, guys want guy time. Giving your guy space to hang with his friends is not only fair, but it shows you trust him in a way.


21 Respect the guy for who he is, not because he earns your respect. Guys relate to each other on a respect level, and if you want him to open up to you, he has to know that you don't look down on him.


22 Let your guy take pictures of you. He may not admit it, but that picture will probably be with him always. Even if you think it looks horrible.


23 Don't always expect the guy to be the one to call. It is okay to call your boyfriend on occasion, and it shows him that you care about him and are thinking about him. And don't get upset if for some reason he doesn't have time to talk. He does have a life


24 Remind him that you appreciate all the sweet little things he does for you. Let him know it's not all in vain.


25 If a guy uses a key to let you into his car, reach over and open the door before he gets to it. I know this may be common sense to most girls, but you know, some do not do this. It's a tiny little action that can make a guy go "hey, she's considerate."


26 Let the guy open the door for you or do any other chivalric action. He's fulfilling your wish for a gentleman, don't deny him the chance to do something nice for you. Thank him! You are doing all these wonderful things for him, let him return the favor.


27 Communicate with him. Tell him directly what's on your mind. You can always hope that he'll get your subtle hints or body language, but if it's important, you're better off using words.


28 Sometimes you have to take the initiative. Don't always wait for him to come to you, because if that's how it always is, you're going to lose him.


29 If they buy you jewelry, wear it around them, even if you don't like it. They will appreciate it, because it's the thought that counts.


30 A word of appreciation now and then regarding his protective/kind/chivalrousattitude will go miles toward the end. You won't regret it.


31 When you are talking to a guy you are interested in, lean in, touch his arm or hand, while your talking. physical touch communicates interest and value.


32 Whether it's from across the room or while your talking let him know that you are only interested in what he has to said. so look into his eyes and smile.


33 Never judge him based on his friends. They may give some insight, but sometimes guys as well as girls can befriend people that are completely opposite of themselves because they like the change. Don't let who he hangs around with be the deciding factor of your judgments about him. Get to know him.


34 Cute is what he is when he does something goofy, not how you should compliment his looks.Tell him he looks handsome... or any other word you'd use to describe James Bond.


35 Let him know you're on his side and that you support him and believe in him.


36 Call him instead of IMing or e-mail. Let him talk to you and hear your voice. Note: sometimes, it can't be helped. long distance relationships are sometimes forced to use AIM. In this case, use a camera!! You can see him and hear him.


37 Write him letters! If you want to tell him something but just can't come up with the words in person, take the time to write them down. He'll appreciate it because he can read word for word how you feel for him over and over again, and you know he won't forget it.


38 girls should do little things for guys. If they ask for a drink, just get it for them cuz they don't ask often. Or surprise them with little gifts (even if homemade) it ll show them that you care about them and thought about them during the day, even if they don't admit it, they like it as much as we do"


39 DON'T CHEAT ON HIM! IT'S NEVER WORTH IT! He WILL find out one way or another and odds are you guys are through. Whether you were already split up or still dating... you'll be lucky if he still wants to be your friend!


40 Forgive him. Not hundreds of times for the same mistakes, but relationships are going to have problems and there will be apologies on both sides... Forgiveness is a huge part of a relationship. You may not always want to do it, and he will definitely not always deserve it, but then again, we don't necessarily always deserve forgiveness either...


If you know that you and the one you are with should end the relationship, have the integrity and respect to tell them that the relationship is over. Do not just leave and never speak to them again.


***Please remember people!!! What do the Pirates say?
"These are more like guidelines, than actual rules... I know there are exceptions to everything and everyone is different. I know these are not essential to a wonderful relationship.

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Thursday, April 05, 2007

What do you look for in a relationship?

In quest to answer this question, my MSN friends were questioned:
What do you look for in a relationship?
Hope it helps to find the answer that lies deep within.


A relationship that can help me to understand my own self better
- **T**, female


I look for security and commitment...long term vision i must say.
A relationship that makes me 'livelier'... from both negative and positive emotions
where...
if i look back...i know dat it has made my life a lil more complete...something that.. if it didn't happened, the 'value' of life is lesser.
Eventho it's jealously or quarrel moments.. it's miss-able.
- *O**T*, female


Comfort, support and security... secure in trust and commitment to each other i guess... regardless of time or distance.. but in the times tat do matter...
- **A*O*, female


Emphatic listening.
... and only when you are sincere, open and genuine then u can talk and share.
- **O**E, female


A companion of a life time... someone who accepts my good and my bad sides and helps me be the best person i can be...
- *I**A, female


I'm lookin for someone to complement me in life...
The literal soulmate i guess
- **R***E, male


Warmth, affection, mutual respect, reciprocality... all that stuff. Lots of hugs and intellectual conversations.
- *A***O*, male


I guess doing things together.
availability , love and to be loved to some extend.
- *D*, male



So, what does this show?

It's hard to get male respondents *haha*
I can't just simply ask any guys in my list, I have to screen them first though mah *kidding


Let's summarize:

Females look for a relationship that helps them to understand themselves and be a better person. A relationship that gives them the sense of security *not financially* and comfort. We need commitment, emphatic listening and strong support to make it work and we assume that being in a relationship means that we do care and 'love' each other. We are looking for something intangible, very abstract and emotional. Are we asking for too much?

Males, on the other hand, look for something more physical? Oopz..hope I don't spread any wrong perceptions here. Well, I am sure females also long for affection, warmth, togetherness and so on... but interestingly, we don't state this in the answer. We go beyond that. More intrinsic I think, something that may be too ideal at times, but doesn't stop us from dreaming and hoping. Dreams are great. Hopes are great. They keep us alive (Count how many fairytale stories and dramas we have ^^).

At the beginning, we want them to stay true, care and love us always. Someone who needs to understand us and make us feel like we're the One. Someone to share our happiness and sadness, someone who will keep assuring you on your beautiful life. Someone who laugh and cry with you. Someone who look at you and you'll feel thousand times better just coz he/she feels with you. But, do we even give the same amount of what we ask for? Or do we only 'take' and never 'give' in return? It's tiring if it's so...

I remembered our AIESEC NTU BBQ Outing, we had a sharing on this issue. People say they look for a caring partner, someone they can rely to, someone who is indepent and understanding. A committed relationship. If I could, I would love to have all these traits and characteristics. How ideal huh? But perfection is not what I am looking for, I want someone that I can hold on to, someone that I can relate and not too high-up-there that I find it hard to even talk to. Someone who is ordinary is best.

Caring - check
Understanding - check
Honest - check
Kind - check
Loyal - check
Committed - check
and the list goes on and on and on.... (are we even that great to ask for so many things?)

At times, do we ask for too much from our counterpart, but we ourselves fail to give what they need? Do we even deserve to ask for so many things in a relationship?

What I want... If I could use one word, I want security. I want to be able to trust him in everything he did, does and will do. I want to commit in whatever I say and promise. I want to support him all the way. I want someone who can protect me and be there when I need him the most. I want to be able to understand him. I want someone whom I can talk to and be myself. And I want him to feel the same way too. Therefore, the security can come in peacefully.

Nah, a friend always refers this security to financial matters. It's not a must, it's an added-value dear ^.*

For me, security sums it all. Are we asking too much?

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Perhaps Love - indeed

J & HowL ~ Perhaps Love
(Sarang Een Gah Yo) Romanizer : Huay

uhn jeh yuht duhn guhn jee gee uhk nah jeen ah nah
jah kkoon nae muh ree gah nuh roh uh jee ruhp duhn shee jahk
hahn doo buhn ssheek dduh oh reu duhn saeng gahk
jah kkoo neul uh gah suh joh geum dang hwang seu ruh oon ee mah eum

byuhl eel ee ah neel soo eet dah goh
sah soh hahn mah eum ee rah goh
nae gah neh geh jah koo (neh geh jah koo)
mahl eul hah neun geh uh saek hahn guhl

sarang een gah yo geu dae nah wah gaht dah myuhn shee jahk een gah yo
mahm ee jah koo geu dael sarang hahn dae yo
ohn seh sang ee deud doh rohk soh ree chee neh yo
wae ee jeh yah deul lee jyoh~ OOH~
suh rohl mahn nah gee wee hae ee jeh yah sarang chah jaht dah goh

jee geum nae mah eum eul suhl myung hah ryuh hae doh
nee gah nae gah dweh uh mahm eul neu kkee neun bang buhp ppoong een deh

ee mee nahn nee ahn eh eet neun guhl
nae ahn eh nee gah eet deu shee
oo reen suh roh eh geh (suh roh eh geh)
ee mee geel deul yuh jeen jee mohl lah

sarang een gah yo geu dae nah wah gaht dah myuhn shee jahk een gah yo
mahm ee jah koo geu dael sarang hahn dae yo
ohn seh sang ee deud doh rohk soh ree chee neh yo
wae ee jeh yah deul lee jyoh~ OOH~
suh rohl mahn nah gee wee hae ee jeh yah sarang chah jaht dah goh

saeng gahk hae boh myuhn (saeng gahk hae boh myuhn) mah neun soon gahn
sohk eh (sohk eh)
uhl mah nah mah neun (YEAH~) suhl leh eem ee ssuht neun jee
joh geum neu jeun geu mahn keum nahn duh jahl hae jool kkeh yo..

hahm kkeh hahl kkeh yo choo uhk ee dwehl gee uhk mahn suhl mool hahl kkeh yo
dah sheen nae gyuh teh suh dduh nah jee mah yo
jjahl beun soon gahn joh chah doh bool ahn hahn guhl yonae geh muh mool luh jwuh yo~ OOH~
geu dael ee ruh geh mah nee (geu toh rohk mah nee)
sarang hah goh ee ssuh yo (geu dae yuh yah mahn) ee mee~

[translation]

I don’t know when it all started
When my head became dizzy with thoughts of you
These thoughts would often pop up in my mind
I feel anxious as my heart expands towards you

It’s nothing.. it’s just a little thing
Your words are awkward to me

Is it love? If you feel the same way, is it a beginning?
My heart keeps saying it loves you
It screams out for the whole world to hear
Why has it taken so long for me to hear it~?
We’ve finally met.. finally found love

If I wanted to show you how I feel
The only way would be for you to become me

I’m already inside of you
Just like you’re inside of me

To each other [to each other]
We may already be too accustomed

Is it love? If you feel the same way, is it a beginning?
My heart keeps saying it loves you
It screams out for the whole world to hear
Why has it taken so long for me to hear it~?
We’ve finally met.. finally found love

When I think about it [when I think about it]
I realize how many moments there were when my heart trembled
I’ll try as harder as I was late in realizing my feelings
I’ll be with you, I’ll only give you fond memories
Please don’t ever leave me again
Even the shortest moments without you make me uneasy
Please stay by me~

I already love you so much [you’re the only one]



Fave Goong couple - Chaegyung 'Crown Princess' and Shin 'Crown Prince'... so cute ne!

The lonely prince who loves Chaegyung in his own way :)

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Friday, March 30, 2007

beauty of life

Life is much more beautiful....












































With this :)


Of all the music that reached farthest into heaven, it is the beating of a loving heart
~Henry Ward Beecher

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